I, too, am gaining strength from reading the daily blogs. This is day 2 for me and I feel strangely empowered. It is not unlike the time (30 yrs ago) that I quite smoking. I’m taking it one day at a time, and not buying that next item. Living in a very rural area, my primary source of shopping, besides the internet, has been catalogs. They are about to arrive enmasse with the mail in one hour. I’ve already contemplated my response. All catalogs will be quickly removed from the pile and expunged with the recyclables.
I know that after 21 days I will have adopted this as habit and, hopefully, these mailings will diminish.
Hey guys, sorry to have been out of communication. I was in Southeast Alaska for the past week cavorting with the humpback whales, Grizzly bears and sea lions. As you would expect, I was well dressed in waterproof jackets and sweat wicking, high-tech fleece sweaters that I have collected over the last ten years. All still in style of course. At one point, after wearing the sixth of the seven jackets I had packed, my sister said, “What is this…a fashion show for Gortex?” There was a time, many years ago when I was in the outdoor industry and collected every fleece, down and Gortex techno-jacket available. The only problem—that stuff never wears out. It will take 1,000 years before I have an excuse to buy another.
Anyway, I was in Elfin Cove on September 1st, the day when I could safely and freely shop with abandon. A little background for context, Elfin Cove is a fishing village, winter population: twelve people. Summer population: a hundred. It’s a nature lover’s dream and an ex-shopping diva’s worst nightmare. I went into their seasonal gift shop with such high hopes for a stellar something or other but could only find Elfin Cove embroidered and screened sweat shirts and t-shirts. Needless to say, I walked away empty handed. I have since ordered a few things from www.hautelook.com (Splendid and Vince) and my favorite retailer www.shopolivine.com. But truthfully I’m not itchin’ to go shoppin’. Seems like a waste of time to me. Perhaps I just need to warm up to it slowly.
Congratulations to all of you who made it through the year. My hope is that you will stay in touch and blog often (the blog will continue until next year, Sept. 1st). It’s been a great year, one that I couldn’t have done without all of you in lock step. What a great social experiment. Someday people will look back on this time and ask…”What was the mindset of women during the great recession?” and we will have an answer.
Clothes shopping isn’t actually my biggest shopping problem, but I’m hoping to use this diet to influence my other spending issues… mainly of groceries.
Reflecting on the diet has led me to rethink my shopping habits in general, and it’s the same issues for me. I get hooked by the S word, SALE, and the need for some sort of completion: ”Oh look at this lovely skirt/squash! It’s on SALE!! It would totally go great with the blouse/beef I’ve got sitting around at home doing nothing, and why not? SALE!!!” And then at home, the blouse is stained more than I realized and needs to be tossed, and the beef is freezer-burnt and needs to be tossed, and the shirt and the squash go to the back of the closet/fridge to be forgotten until it’s too late. A lot of twice-wasted money right there.
I’ve recently taught myself to return the skirt if it doesn’t work after all. (Food doesn’t quite work like that) Like a few other people have posted recently, instead of giving up and ordering take-out or buying a new clothes to match the new skirt, I want to learn to become a leftover-makeover queen, in both my closet and my cupboard.
I live alone: I don’t need to have as much food as my mother stocks! I like having an overstocked kitchen because it makes me feel like I can make anything I want. But usually I’m overwhelmed by the possibilities, or too lazy to branch out, and make the same things, or eat out (same deal as the closet).
Like everyone doing closet evaluations, maybe I should do a cupboard inspection, and figure out how to make Hamburger Helper palatable. Why did I buy 5 boxes of it if I don’t really like it? That’ll teach me to stop falling for the sale items! Maybe I could pull out the exotic spices I’m too scared to try, like I plan on actually accessorizing my clothes this year so they don’t look so “same” all the time. It could be like an episode of some FoodNetwork show (or Project Runway) where I only can use what I have…
I’ve been trying to keep a budget on and off since graduating college, but maybe this challenge will inspire me to be more faithful to it. (I might just give myself a cash budget that will only cover the necessities for a few months, to wean myself off impulse sale!!!!!! buying)
I just hope that after I pare the cupboard down, I can keep myself from filling it back up. Maybe by placing photo-frames and pretty knicknacks in the shelves instead?
Twenty-five years ago I lived in San Francisco with my childhood friend, we will call her Jay. We had parted ways in high school due to my father’s relocation for his job and reconnected after I had graduated from college. “Come live with me in the city,” I begged. She did.
Jay was the consummate ugly duckling turned swan. She was always dressed impecilby. Though I was the one with the big corporate job she managed to out spend and out dress me–it was competitive. Even her nightgowns were gorgeous.
Immediately I found our living situation less than bliss. Jay was distanced and not as fun as she had been when we were in junior high. She worked two jobs, administrative assistant by day and record store clerk by night while I found my way as a sales person for Eastman Kodak. We didn’t’ see much of each other. I would occasionally see her in the mornings or in the evenings when she came home from her job at the mall-bags of clothes on her arms. I just couldn’t figure out how she could afford all that stuff while I was stuck in the same preppy skirts I wore post college. About six months into our living situation the phone started to ring at all hours of the day. I worked from home so I was the one taking the calls. The voice on the other end always asked that Jay return the call offering up an 800#. When I passed these messages along to Jay she replied annoyingly, “Those calls are magazines trying to sell me something. Just hang up on them.”
One morning after a run in the park I was making coffee in the kitchen of our flat when I heard our front door open. I walked down the long hallway toward the door to face two very scary looking men asking for my roommate. She was still in bed at the time. I was frightened. It was 7am and I had two very large, and very sketchy looking men in my house—think Mikey Rourke in a mob film. I woke Jay. What ensued was a discussion about the repossession of Jay’s car. She broke down crying and begged that they give her some time to get her act together. They were empathetic in their mobster way and gave her 24 hours. Jay would not speak to me, she simply went to her bedroom and shut her door. The next morning her parents drove up from Orange to San Francisco and moved her out, leaving me with the rent and a giant question…what happened? I never spoke to Jay again. The moral of the story…It’s never just about shopping!
Tonight I was with my friend Portia who has been contemplating going on this diet for 11 months now. I told her that I have decided to extend the diet for one more year, in light of the fact that there have been so many people interested in joining the effort in the past few weeks (here we go again). When I told Portia it wasn’t too late to realize the benefits of clothing deprivation she hooped and hollered “That’s what I need, a closet colonic.” The visual made me gag. She went on to claim, “Deep within my big, fat, bloated walk-in closet there is a skinny one begging to be free.” Portia, warming to the idea, is going to “think about it,” before she commits. Let me be clear…I am not doing this for another year myself but I will moderate, facilitate, contemplate and write about life post diet.
Alright already Portia—stop the squawkin’ and start walkin’ give your closet the future it deserves with a purge, a cleanse a regular down home colonic. We’re here my dear and waiting to hear how it all “flushes out.”
I’ve been pretty successful on this diet, though I have had a few “cheats”. I will catalogue them now for full disclosure: 1 pair boots this winter (I actually did not have a pair of boots that were waterproof, and now that I am commuting a few blocks in the snow, they were necessary), a new t-shirt from a state park and a new shirt from a local artisan. I think this is pretty darn good! It’s way better than I’ve ever done on a food diet anyway! Besides the practicality of the boots, the two shirts were supporting things that I want to support. I could have just given the park money, but I like advertising for it. And the artisan was at a local craft fair, so it was a one-time chance.
What’s been the most interesting to me throughout this diet though is how I’ve found a new value system.
When I first started, every day that I walked past Anne Taylor was torture. And I walk past this store every week day. I would stare in and LONG for the outfits in the window. A couple of months ago, I went into the store. I was nervous, and I found I wanted things. But then I looked at the price tags. Suddenly dropping $180 on a new dress “just because” seemed appauling! I used to do this weekly without batting an eye, now it just seems frivolous, despicable even. I saw these cute t-shirts with ribbons and pearls on them, and thought about how much I wanted one. It wasn’t very expensive either. But I realized that I could actually take a pink t-shirt I already own and turn it into this cute be-dazzled shirt. This was especially a good idea because the shirt has a small coffee stain on it, and I have therefore not worn it. But I could turn it into something I want to wear again by attaching decorative items to it!
I now find myself exploring store windows, not with lust and envy, but with a curious eye turned towards “how did they make that”? I am re-discovering my once artistic and creative self, and finding fulfillment. I am also discovering that I have managed to save a lot of money for things that matter more to me, and feeling less stressed out. It’s nice to be able to walk to work without feeling completely depressed that you “can’t have” that cute dress in the window. Now I realize that I can have whatever I want, but my “wants” are changing.
Who knew that deprivation would lead to so much gain!?
According to an article posted in The Sun, a UK newspaper you can save yourself over 100 hours (or about 1 week) of your time by not shopping for clothes this year! Apparently the average woman spends nearly three years over their lifetime just shopping. While you obviously can’t give up shopping for food and household necessities, you can choose not to shop for clothing this year and save yourself a full week’s time for vacation and use the money that you didn’t spend to fund your new trip; wow! I suspected this might be the case, but this is the first written evidence (outside of my own entry) that seems to confirm it. So spend a bit of the time that you won’t use to shop this week and start planning for your next winter ski trip or Carribean cruise!
If I thought I was unclear as to what my style was before I embarked upon this diet I am now officially stupified! This week I went to a great clothing swap with lots of really good second hand apparel. I came home with a white t-shirt, a black sweater and a pair of blue jeans. More of the same. There were prints, velvets and fancy skirts, wrap-around-dresses and plenty of accessories and I got….a white t-shirt. I think I’m frozen now that I haven’t bought anything for a while. Clothing is simply not that interesting to me these days, especially if it takes some thinking to put an outfit together. Have I gotten lazy or just more confused. Not sure but I now have seven white t-shirts, over 11 black sweaters and more jeans than I can count. Someone, save me from myself.
O.K. I’m wrapping up the latest poll. And the results are in…more people think this diet is easy than hard. That said, it’s easier by a thin margin. 58% of you said it is relatively easy and 42% said it was hard. For me it all depends on the day. Today it’s hard, tomorrow it might be easier. I think about the pre diet era. There were days when I wasn’t feeling all that good e.g., bad hair day, ridiculous work meeting, argument with my seven year old. My immediate reaction, conscious or subconscious, was to go buy something for myself. Often times it was something completely wrong and poorly made and probably on sale (hence my closet full of crap). It was an emotional impulse.
But the fact is life has its peaks and valleys, but for every valley there is a peak whether you’re wearing new clothes or not. I hope for all of you this is an easy day but remember we will be here when its not. 5 mos. and 15 days. Your fearless leader.
Okay, I thought I was just going to log in and just write about a success and go to bed, however it sounds like I am going to write a little bit more. So, I just read about two dieters that quit and boy can that be discouraging for us newbies. I want to something I just learned tonight in my addictions class for all us that are new to the diet. Relapse is to be expected when you are trying to kick the habit. Understand I am not saying that you should expect to fail but that we are going to it just means that we need to recognize that it can happen and we need to recognize the triggers and come up with ways to deal with the urge to buy that new dres. Believe me I so badly wanted to stop on my way home from class and buy myself something new because I had stayed up most of the night writing a paper and usually when I accomplish a task that gets me one step closer to my goal, I want to myself something new to wear.
I was like Pavlov’s dog salivating because the paper was done and I was thinking I’m one less paper away from my Master’s Degree and I deserve a little sumthin sumthin from one of my favorite clothing stores. Then I reminded myself, I am on a diet!
So, as I was driving home tonight and feeling tempted to stop at the mall, I decided to identify my triggers and one of them is that DSW, the mall and Marshall’s are all on my way home from class. It made me realize that I need a new route and that I definitely needed to come up with a different type of reward system.
I know I’m new to the diet but I also want to encourage other newbies like myself because it helps me to stay on track.
I am not expecting to relapse but I know it’s a possibility. Because I am so committed to this diet I am paying attention to the triggers and I am realizing and learning that there is a whole group of supportive people on this site that will help to get me back on track.
Maybe at some point they (the two who left) will come back. Is that possible Sally? Can they rejoin?
Thank You for the welcome! I am very close to celebrating my 1-week anniversary! As we say in the Army, HOOAH!